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Date:

01 Jan 2008

Time:

11:16 AM

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Happy New Year to the Buck Family! I pray that 2008 will be filled with many more wonderful blessings and that you will start to write a book! I know, I won't drop it will I???? It needs to be written for a million reasons and especially for the lost. But, no pressure!:) I do love the blogs as they keep me praying and knowing exactly what to pray for so please keep them up! You all in my prayers constantly and let's hope in 2008 we will meet face-to-face! Much love to you all! Mrs. Peg Hawthorne ~ Clarkston, MI

Date:

01 Jan 2008

Time:

02:37 PM

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Dear Josh, Shelly, and families, I'm so sorry that you must endure the thoughtlessness of others as you face this obstacle in your lives. I know, personally, how hurtful and damaging those types of comments can be. After my husband died, I was astounded by the people who felt it their position (dare I say, "right") to give me or in many cases, others, their opinion on how I chose to spend money or even raise my children! God knows the plans He has for each of us and obviously, He knew that you would face Ava's death and Josh's accident, and yes even the creation of The Ten Buck Club! I want you to know that I have prayed for you since I first learned of your accident and I will continue to do so. I think you both are AMAZING people and I believe that the future will only show even the naysayers that! God Bless all of you and here's to a happy, healthy 2008! Amy Heidt Billings, MT

Date:

01 Jan 2008

Time:

03:29 PM

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Just a general question for easier reading: is it at all possible to reverse the comments so that the newest comments are on the top of the page? I don't know about for everyone else, but I have fast internet and it still takes quite a while for all of the comments to load so that I can scroll down to the bottom to read them. Just wondering if that was possible? It sure would make reading easier! Praying for you all!

Date:

01 Jan 2008

Time:

03:36 PM

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Has anyone ever heard the saying "If you can't say something nice don't say anything at all.I have read some of the previous posts and I think that if you have such a problem with them askig for help maybe you should re-evaluate you relationship with Christ (IS THAT WHAT HE WOULD DO OR HOW HE WOULD FEEL?)The bucks in no way are forcing anyone to give them anything so it is not a crime to ask for help because if you dont want to help you dont have to and that is just fine with them! And as for designer clothes have you ever been to Old Navy or the Gap there clearence sections are amazing and you can get many things for cheaper than a garage sale! I have to ask for some of you people are there if you are given a gift card or money as a gift does that person who gave it to you get angry at how you spend it or what you spent it on? As for any of the gifts that I have given to the Bucks,however they choose to spend it or on what I dont really care and I am just happy that they can hopefully enjoy it as they please on what they want and I think that many of you would agree!!!!! Anyways enough of that I am so excited about your new house and the opportunities that it will allow for your family and their future!Hope you are enjoying Floridia.Praying for you always and glad to see how stong you are and how you and your mom are addressing the negative comments.With Love,The Stevens

Date:

01 Jan 2008

Time:

09:12 PM

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I have to agree with the Stevens' post. I don't think there is anything wrong with having questions. I know I have never known anyone else that has lost a child and then become a quadripeglic. If I didn't know the family and have "insider" information, I might have lots of questions too. But the way the questions are stated are more acusations than questions. Josh and Shelly - you are doing a great job handling all of this. Thank God for people who are able to help you during this very trying time in your life. Janine in Iowa

Date:

01 Jan 2008

Time:

10:18 PM

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Bucks, please ignore the ignorant. Your faith inspires me daily.

Date:

01 Jan 2008

Time:

11:10 PM

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Our daughter was able to be in Josh's seminar at Set Apart. She was blown away by your testimony. You taught them that life is short and not to take it for granted. You never know what is going to happen. She is a devoted servant of God and is feeling called to youth/children's ministry. She sends her thanks for staying with life and never giving up on God. -The Davis Family, Roanoke, VA

Date:

02 Jan 2008

Time:

08:04 AM

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To the Buck family, I have been a faithful reader of your blog and thank you to Shelly's mom for her recent blog. I am so excited I have just joined the TENBUCKCLUB! Just $10 a month to help your family out. I guess I just don't understand why people don't see the enormous needs you have and can be critical of this. I feel a little embarrassed that I am not giving more. I just hope more people read this and realize that we have so much. Ten a month is so little, and I am more than happy to give to a family in need and especially to a family like you who is seeking the will of God through all of this.... God Bless you and Happy New Year! Joanne from Crossroads Bible

Date:

02 Jan 2008

Time:

08:37 AM

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We love you all so much. May the majesty, grace and peace of our LORD Jesus always be seen in your lives every day and in every moment. You are on the frontlines for His glory...Blessed is the LORD, God almighty. the kemples

Date:

02 Jan 2008

Time:

11:37 AM

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I have struggled with the Church's seeming lack of response to God's command to take care of those in need. The support and love shown to your family (and a similar outpouring to one of my family members) has given me hope! Thank you for sharing this journey with us, and I pray that what's being accomplished in Christ's name will continue to inspire others. I admire your vulnerability and can't wait to see what the future holds for you! Amy (Shanks) Crossman, Ft Bliss, TX

Date:

02 Jan 2008

Time:

03:24 PM

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I too agree that enough is enough with the "cheritable" offerings of the world around Josh and Shelly, despite their gratitude and appreciation. It is time they rely on each other and their abilities as a family unit and move on the same as so many others experiencing tragedies have had to do over time. They can't keep receiving above and beyond forever. Please recognize this as truth, not cruelty.

Date:

02 Jan 2008

Time:

04:14 PM

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I agree with posting above.

Date:

02 Jan 2008

Time:

04:21 PM

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Me too. It is starting to look like it is more than just 1%.

Date:

02 Jan 2008

Time:

04:22 PM

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Is it wrong for God to heap blessing on someone after they have faithfully survived terrible tragedy? Look at Job in the Bible. God allowed Job's wordly surroundings to be destroyed - family, possessions, everything. And when Job remained faithful to God, God restored *in double portion* what had been taken from him. Should Job have said "No thanks God." Do we dare look God in the face and say "Please don't bless me. Please don't provide for me." It's terribly sad that people feel so discarded by the church or by society in general. And the negative comments, while unfeeling, do bring to light the fact that the church is not doing enough to reach the needs of hurting people. However, to try to make this loving family feel guilty for receiving blessings poured out by God Himself is unconscionable. Let this family revel in His goodness, His generosity, and His favor. Yes, we as a church ought to focus on the needs of *all* people throughout their circumstances. But don't persecute someone just because God is blessing them. People don't *have* to give, they are choosing to, and hopefully they are prayerfully choosing this. We cannot sit in judgement comparing what God has allowed to happen to one family with what He has done for another. We each have our own road to walk that looks completely different from our neighbor's road. Our eyes need to be fixed on Christ - not on each other. Buck family, we have been anonomously praying for you and your situation since we heard about it at our church a few months ago and we are just thrilled at what God has done for your situation. Be encouraged that He is showering you with His favor now, more than just revealing His sovereignty! JS in Grand Rapids, MI

Date:

02 Jan 2008

Time:

04:44 PM

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Enough is enough!

Date:

02 Jan 2008

Time:

05:04 PM

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this is not a competition or a game you children, so grow up and share the faith and love with us:) if we were all together right now in the same room i think we would be amazed at how supportive we would be to each other.

Date:

02 Jan 2008

Time:

06:24 PM

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Josh and SHelly, Hi, I just realized that I had lost your email addy and with all of our goings on here in Fountain City I have neglected to read or write to you for some time. I so enjoy reading all of your blogs, Shelly (and your mother's too). I also get a blessing reading the comments. There are so many uplifting comments and prayers. We are praying for you all and wish we could sit down with you and just chat. Misty is to go to Chicago for more shots and may be another surgery. Her pain level is extremely high and makes me feel so helpless until I finally realize that it is not I who can control this but our loving God. I am so glad I found your address again and have been so uplifted up. God is so good!! We love you, Wayne, Mona and Misty Nash

Date:

02 Jan 2008

Time:

08:11 PM

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Thanks Jean for your comments and honesty. Welcome home from Florida!! Hope you had a refreshing time away with each other and flights went well...we love you and are praying for you always. Jonah asked today, "Where's my sister, Zoe?" Apparently he's decided they are brother and sister now! I tried to explain that she isn't his real sister, but very good friend, but he insisted that she is and I just smiled at him and said, well, she is always a part of our family...and in his world she is for sure! You are our family, even if not by blood. We love ya! Jess and Carrie

Date:

03 Jan 2008

Time:

03:10 AM

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Hey Shelly! Wow. You are amazing. What an example you set for all of us on how to trudge on through trials with full reliance on God!! Our house burned down in October in the San Diego wildfires and I have to say that you were one of my main role models on how to deal with the unexpected difficult life events that get thrown our way. Many times I thought of you and Josh and the kids and how fortunate we were to have escaped the fires with our health and family members. You have faced more tragedy in your life than most would expect to experience in a lifetime and yet, you remain faithful. I know God will use you mightily (HE already has!!!!) and the negative comments and attacks on your character or judgement is just more evidence that you are moving in the right direction. The devil gets a little nervous when good things are happening with more on the horizon... You have positively motivated and affected more lives in the past year than most of us could ever hope to accomplish in our lifetime. And all because of God's blessing and favor in your lives and because you choose to remain faithful in the midst of trial--- time and time again. You are a wise woman and I will continue to pray for an extra measure of grace for all of you as you are now living your life front and center stage. Sadly, this opens you up to a world of criticism by well-intentioned onlookers who most often are just ignorant of the reality of the situation. Those who know and love you trust that God is (and will continue) working in your lives to bring about GOOD. You are bringing glory to God!! The fact that you are even THINKING about and planning for future ministry is evidence that you are wise beyond your years. Ask any critic what the top five things on their "list of yearly goals" would be after having lost a precious baby and a husband (as you knew him), after the realization that your life is forever altered at the young age of 30 and add to that mix a new baby, meeting the needs of two other children facing the same losses while trying to determine where you will live so that your husband can manage to travel from one room to the next. Add to that list the endless decisions regarding medical care, choosing chairs and equipment and then sorting through insurance needs in the meantime. Let's not forget the daily stresses and the list that goes on and on and on. My point is that you are not hiding away throwing pity parties or indulging in lethargy. You are moving forward and trusting the Lord in a public arena. GOD BLESS YOU (and your mother!!) and your close and extended family for keeping focused on what is important. Thank you for your courage and determination and for being so wonderful!! We all love you lots and WILL NOT stop believing God for many, many miracles this coming year and throughout your lives. Much love and prayers from San Diego...xoxox Kristie Shackelford

Date:

03 Jan 2008

Time:

01:49 PM

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Wow! That is all that I can say to Shelly's mom's post. You know, the devil puts seeds in each of us and I must admit that I too give to it. It has been a rough year of loss of income and such, yet none compared to that of the Buck family. In my struggle I have often thought how nice it would be to have a nice house and even gave in to agreeing with whoever posted on the kids' nice clothes. As I read that post, I nearly cried and realized my own jealousy and struggle which was not remotely comparable to the Bucks. I am so greatful for all that I have (and even what I don't have). You stated everything so beautifully. I would never post negative because I just don't believe that that is ok. Now, I have decided that I will not even allow myself to think negatively. Peace for the year 2008 for the Bucks will be my prayer...and I won't even consider thinking, posting or anything else for any other negative thought from satan! Satan plants the seed, but we decide what to do with it. I choose to not give in. So with that, Bucks enjoy your lovely home, spoil your kids with nice things (we all want this), and accept graciously knowing that you are loved.

Date:

03 Jan 2008

Time:

02:01 PM

Comments

These children, and this woman are living life with a father and husband who's life was changed dramatically and tragically in an accident. Give them designer clothes, let them live in the coolest and biggest house around, donate money to them so that they are able to, not just barely get by and pay medical expenses, but so they can experience life to the full, since even that life is limited now by the accident. Good grief, I would be proud if my money went to buy Shelly a starbucks.....I guarentee that they would trade all of the donations, the house, the "designer" clothes, all of it, if they could have Ava back and Josh healed.

Date:

03 Jan 2008

Time:

09:19 PM

Comments

This site really talks alot about materials and money. I'm sure it's because of the nature of this tragedy. Of course with this comes jealousy and anger. I truly believe the real blessings that God gives us does not come in the materials we recieve but in the awareness of His love for us. And with that we are able to reach out to others that are hurting. I believe this amazing family is setting up to do this as God leads them. But for now they need to continue healing. There are many broken and damaged emotions with these events and time is needed for healing. I pray that God will continue to give them wisdom in all areas. I pray that this site will only enhance their healing.

Date:

03 Jan 2008

Time:

10:42 PM

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First of all, I am praising God for answered prayer in regards to your flights and especially that He used Josh to reach so many people at the convention. I will continue to pray that God continues to lead you to your passion as you seek to help others in the way that works best for you and where you can be of the most help. Secondly, a big thank you to Jean for her recent post. It is so well written and hopefully will help clarify the issues for those who have misunderstood. Kudos to Shelly for keeping this area open. We can never be sure what seeds are planted here that God may water. Blessings to you in the new year, and as Jean requested, I will pray you all have an uneventful year...a year to heal, adjust, regroup, and move forward.

Date:

03 Jan 2008

Time:

10:51 PM

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Oops...forgot to sign my name to the 03 Jan. 2008 10:42 posting. Blessings, Susan (happily a member of the Ten Buck Club)

Date:

03 Jan 2008

Time:

10:53 PM

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We are all so excited to see how the Lord is providing for the Buck family.Glad to hear that Floridia went as well as could be expected and hopefully you had some time to breath both of you!!Please stay strong and keep your chin up(its the devil working to discourage and break you down)Anyways so many love you and please we who care love the updates.LOVE ALWAYS YOUR ALLENDALE FAMILY!!!!!

Date:

04 Jan 2008

Time:

12:53 PM

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Dearest Shelly- In light of all the recent negative comments and the need of clarification from you on your purpose here, here is a reminder.... This is from a blog post of yours dated almost a year ago...I thought it would be a helpful reminder of where you have been and how far you have come. Never forget "we are not defeated, he is already glorified!" The following information is from WWW.GREENHOUSEMINISTRIES.ORG ""1/24/07 12:02 AM "we are not defeated" " God give me words to express Your Glory here." From under the hospital door, an energy seeped. He had just been moved from ICU to the 7th floor. The 7th is a med. surg. floor notorious at Jackson Memorial for its magnificent nursing staff. When you're in a situation like this one, there are no words to express the profound blessing of a competent, compassionate nurse. After days of waiting, faithful email/comment reading and life changing prayer and concern, we are relieved to exhaustion at the news that he has been moved to a private room with extended visiting hours. Such a huge small victory. It's the end of the day in the waiting room on the 1st floor which has become home to the tired bodies and spirits of his beloved and broken friends and family. Relationships have been built with other families in similar situations and interest has been sparked all over the hospital about this man who seems to defy all odds. We wait anxiously for the elevator (which always seems to take an eternity) to take us to the fourth door on the left on the 7th floor. I stood in front of the door taking one last deep breath and releasing it in the prayer I've prayed countless times since Thursday at 4PM. "God, please, just let this be OK." I'm weary from the days before and exhausted for the days ahead, but mostly I just miss my friend. I miss his humor and character. I miss his smile and laugh. I miss endless talks about the meanings of the trivial and not-so-trivial topics of life and God. More than worried, I'm excited to see him. Part of me feels whole again seeing him. But, nothing in my limited human experience thus far could have prepared me for what I was about to experience. The energy from under the door was eerie, frightening. I would soon come to recognize it as the palpable power of the Holy Spirit. As he lay there, his face fixed on the ceiling, his eyes searching the room for familiar faces and someone who loves him, he's relieved and broken to see the faces of those around. We chat for awhile about the day and the plans for coming and going. He let's us in on his personal victories, defeats, thoughts and aspirations. And he asked us to pray for him. It was an inspired and desperate season of prayer. Our hearts were laid open and our humility and humanity before God, rose up. And God's presence was heavy in that place. Hands upon him, our tears fell to the white blankets below. My eyes were open, gazing upon the face of this man who has touched so many lives and is now waiting solely on the power of the Father to raise him up again. Feeling the power of God and the renewal of the Holy Spirit, I was aching for a miracle as we all have been for what seems like forever. The prayers ended and he began to speak. "I will not stop fighting for you all." he said. "And I don't want you to stop fighting for me either. I need you." He is trusting us, all of us to lift him through this darkness on the wings of our love and prayer. "Shelly, lift my right arm. Hold it in the air." We waited to see what he was planning, all wishing that he'd save his strength and try to get some rest. And Micah began to whisper in disbelief, first quietly and then louder, "His hand is moving. His hand is Moving!" Our hearts and gazes fixed on his hand, curled around the small hand of his beloved wife, we witnessed a miracle. He began to squeeze her hand. Each time with laborious breaths and tightened face. We stood shocked. Struck by the Power laying before us. "Jason, lift my left arm." And he began once again to curl his fingers so slightly and slowly around Jason's. There will never be words to describe the strength of this man. As well as we may feel we know him, we will never understand the depths of his strength, in the almighty power of the God he loves. And as I stood in that space in time, grasping for the emotional capacity to understand what I was seeing, I looked down and saw that it was no longer Josh there on the bed, wrapped in blankets for warmth. What I saw was the glorious flesh of the Holy Spirit. And the words of the Three in One came to us then. "WE..ARE NOT..DEFEATED" "We are not defeated" he said, tears streaming down his face. "This may be all I am ever able to do. Or I may be running the streets of Eastown in 2 years. It doesn't matter. God will be glorified." He is already glorified."

Date:

04 Jan 2008

Time:

01:24 PM

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Date:

05 Jan 2008

Time:

02:22 AM

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Heavenly Father, We know you love the Bucks. You fashioned them in your mind's eye before the foundations of the earth were laid...you love them intensely. I pray that you would lavish this love upon them in a very palpable way over the next few days. They need to feel your comfort and love and they need to sense your nearness. I pray for a blanket of peace and calm to descend upon the Buck household and for healing to take place according to your will. Lord, have your Holy Spirit encourage them in a very special, personal way over these next few days so that they might know---beyond a shadow of a doubt---and experience your awesome love for them. We love you Jesus...we know your plan is absolutely perfect and that you will provide EVERY need. Emotionally, physically, spiritually and otherwise. Thank you Jesus for all that you have done in each of our lives. You are an awesome God. Amen.

Date:

05 Jan 2008

Time:

09:34 AM

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My prayers are with you guys! It wasn't until about 35 that I finely accepted my own learning issues. However I have come to understand my dyslexia and add, and how to deal with them. And I have realized that God makes NO mistakes. NONE, NADA! HE made me this way. Why, I still do not understand and will never full see His plan. However, I know that through dealing with my own struggles, I am now a TON more sympathetic to those suffering, in either medical, physical, spiritual or emotional issues. It appears to me that God has allowed my heart to love as hyper as my actions can be from time to time. None of us are perfect here on earth...I pray that God will use Noah to rock this world...that Noah will love to the fullest and show this so called "perfect driven world" that perfection is a Heaven thing. A Jesus thing. Not a man thing. God is good and will hear our prayers....look how he has moved over the last year. He is good and protects us EVERY step of the way. My heart still breaks for you guys. I need you to know that my relationship with Jesus and my husband has been sooooo greatly improved through "knowing" the Bucks family. You are making a difference by living out loud for Jesus. You guys rock...no matter what some folks may say or write. God is good and makes NO mistakes. Follow His leading!! Love, hugs and prayers! Jane in SC

Date:

05 Jan 2008

Time:

11:08 AM

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Hi Shelly & family. This is Aunt Karel and I just wanted to reply to your comments regarding Noah's med. changes. I think I shared with you that Hannah is also currently on Concerta for her ADD. We did try Statera for the same reasons you mentioned; Hannah does not sleep without medical assistance. If she does not take any medicine to help her sleep, she finally falls asleep about 3:00-4:00 a.m., and then is awake again by about 7:00. Obviously this is not enough sleep; maybe for her, but not for her Mom. Hannah takes Clonidine. It is a medication used for lowering blood pressure, but she takes a very low dose, and the doctor has assurred us that it is perfectly safe. She takes .2 mg (2) tablets one hour before bedtime. It just makes it so she can relax, so that she can fall asleep, with no residual hang-over effects. We did try Statera, but in Hannah's case, it did not address her distractability, oppositional disorder, or her impulsivness, so we went back to Concerta. I know this is a lengthy message, but I want you to know that when dealing with our children's bodies and medications, it is difficult to know the right thing to do. Feel free to call me if you wish to talk some more regarding this issue. We continue to pray. With love, Aunt Karel

Date:

05 Jan 2008

Time:

03:19 PM

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Shelly, Thanks so much for letting us know your prayer needs and concerns and know that you and your family are prayed for regularly. You and your faith are such an encouragement to me! Love and prayers from OHIO Glenda Kremer

Date:

05 Jan 2008

Time:

04:24 PM

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it's been so long since i've written, but i've read your story since the very first day. i still pray and think about you often. my oldest son samuel has a lot of the same things that noah deals with- adhd, an incredible memory and yet struggles with other things. as two parents not dealing with paralysis my husband and i are sometimes at a loss. when you describe him, i understand fully how you feel. in awe and in love with him and yet sometimes so frustrated and at a loss of how to help him cope. i just wanted you to know i'm praying that God would give you wisdom in how to medicate him, how to interact with him, and how to direct all that incredible energy. it's a hard road even when all else seems "easy". our son is on strattera as well and has done well with it- i pray that his little body would adjust quickly and easily and that Josh would have creative ideas in how to interact with his precious son. thanks for still sharing your story -heather

Date:

05 Jan 2008

Time:

10:44 PM

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I think it is great that the church has stepped in and provided for the Buck family. However I do feel there are so many people in the church that are overlooked when a crisis happens. Maybe part of your future ministry could be encouraging the Church as a whole to give to those in need. Maybe inventing a program local churches could adopt to help those in the local churches. It is just a thought.

Date:

06 Jan 2008

Time:

01:36 PM

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hey bucks! we are definately praying for Noah as you try to figure out what the best option is for him. glad to hear your holidays were fantastic, and that the house building is going well :) we love you so much. hope to see you tonight at church! -zach and rach

Date:

06 Jan 2008

Time:

08:34 PM

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The teens at our church were talking about "Set Apart 07" Hearing your story was very moving for our teens. Thank you for sharing what God is doing in your lives and for holding on to Him with all of your heart and strength! Marion, IN

Date:

06 Jan 2008

Time:

10:22 PM

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Praying that the transitioning to Strattera will go as smoothly as possible for Noah...and the rest of the family! Praying for Noah's safety and spirits...and for patience for mom and dad...and that the Strattera will be effective for Noah...and that Josh and Noah will find a way to relate to one another during this time. As always, blessings to you, Susan

Date:

06 Jan 2008

Time:

11:25 PM

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I loved your last 2 posts - they sound upbeat and "chatty." It's good to "hear." So glad your trip to FL went well, even with the adrenaline rushes throughout. :) Just wanted to say that I have an adult friend on Straterra and in her case I would call it a true miracle drug. I can tell within minutes of being around her if she has missed a dose. :) I will definitely be praying for your Noah and this medicine change. More drama is just not what you need right now! Also praying as you discern where God is leading with your ministry ideas and Josh's speaking, etc... WeaverMom

Date:

07 Jan 2008

Time:

11:36 AM

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Date:

07 Jan 2008

Time:

12:54 PM

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Shelly, Apri from Lake Odessa here. I just wanted to let you know that my son has ADD as well, so I understand some of the medication struggles you are going through. One person that was particularly helpful to me was Grey Larison in Caladonia. He specializes in kid ADD, and is helpful with diet, and all of the other crazy stuff that nobody knows about until you have a child with it. He is associated with Pine Rest, and the number I have is 616 891-8770. I'll be praying. thanks, april

Date:

11 Jan 2008

Time:

10:45 PM

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my prayer tonight is that you all have a good nights sleep and sweet dreams. thinking of you always with much love, patty

Date:

11 Jan 2008

Time:

11:12 PM

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Hi Shelly and Josh, As a special ed teacher for 16 years and a mom with an ADHD son I have seen the great advantages of finding the right medication. Keep trying - you may have to change again as growth patterns fluctuate and tolerance levels change. A few other things I know from experience: 1) Boys with ADHD do much better in individual sports vs. team sports. Karate, track and field and swimming are all really good - less standing, more action! Not so many team hassles and feeling like you don't fit in. (2) Studies show most boys with ADHD will not even come close to grade level reading until after they are 10 years old; many not until high school - so don't despair: numbers,counting and letters may not be developmentally "in the cards" right now (3) Tutors are wonderful-takes the pressure off mom and dad; even with an IEP kids often need more of that one on one focus time, and you don't have to be the "heavy". (4) Computers are an ADHD kid's good friend - video games help them feel successful, the academic programs are fast and fun. As Josh and you reach a point where life is a bit more predictable Noah will certainly feel more secure. Hopefully, Josh can be a big part of Noah's life as his personal cheering squad or as the computer guru, or just the dad who listens. How much I always wished the boys in my classes had dads that were in the home and would listen. My son that drove us just about nuts in elementary and junior high is now a junior at SF State - he works at Apple and also has a job setting up the technology behind the scenes at music concerts. Keep the faith - there is a place for kids with ADHD to shine!!! Hugs to all - Claudia from SVMS

Date:

12 Jan 2008

Time:

01:22 PM

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you people out there in blog land are sooooo smart. every time i read this blog i think i learn somthing new. i also have a child(or two:) with adhd and always enjoy hearing new ideas. patty

Date:

13 Jan 2008

Time:

01:00 AM

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What a great site. My son Charlie asked me tonight during prayers how you guys were. I thought I would try to look up the house stuff, I never thought I would find all this. You guys are amazing, you reminded me what gifts our kids really are-even though they fight a lot. You reminded me how presious my husband is to me. You also reminded me God is in control. You are an amazing mom and wife. I am so happy for you guys. I am also happy for us that we have had the chance to be part of all this. I am so sad to see negitive can come to you thru this site-like you haven't been thru enough. It does continue to make you stronger and show your faith to the world-no matter what you go thru or people say God always gets the glory in the end. That's what matters! Charlie is still praying that he can see Josh walk and play music again. I hope 2008 brings joy for you guys. FYI-even if you weren't a pastor and Charlie heard your story he would have done the same thing.(I know because he has) Lisa DeLano

Date:

14 Jan 2008

Time:

10:26 PM

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I will be praying over the next few days as you face this upcoming challenge. It is my prayer that the four of you will find comfort in one another and that on the anniversary you would feel God's hand working in your lives.

Date:

14 Jan 2008

Time:

10:36 PM

Comments

Have already started praying and will continue to pray for you and Josh,esp on Friday, Jan. 18. Shelly your faith is so strong that it has often encouraged me and I'm so thankful for the priviledge of praying for you and your family and the priviledge of getting to know you. I'd never known the value of "blogs" before, in fact didn't know what one was!!! Thanks for always being so real and sharing your heart! Love and prayers from Ohio Glenda Kremer

Date:

15 Jan 2008

Time:

10:50 AM

Comments

Hi friend, Of course we are praying, and will be praying this week, especially on Friday. God is doing a mighty thing, and we continue to expect miracles! We love you! In His grip, The Gaschos

Date:

15 Jan 2008

Time:

11:45 AM

Comments

we will pray . GODBLESS YOU ALL!

Date:

15 Jan 2008

Time:

12:10 PM

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Shelly, Denial is a place I know all too well. You wake up every morning thinking "Lord I know all your power, I know full well you could heal me and I'm just waiting, so I'm gonna stay in this waiting stage." Until the day your broken over not being healed and you move on, fully embracing yourself and your situation for all the ways that it now makes you special and different. Because if it weren't for the accident for both Josh and I then neither one of us could have been refined, neither one of us could have shown the world by the love expressed to us and His provisions that WE ARE HIS CHILDREN. Never in my life have I watched 2 people go through the pain like you have and cried more with out even knowing you. Maybe because I know what Josh is going through but in a much smaller scale, maybe because your both a brother and sister in Christ..I don't know. But I love you both and you will be in my thoughts heavily over the next few days as you approach a day that will hold a milestone forever in your Christian walk. tm-kentwood mi

Date:

15 Jan 2008

Time:

12:26 PM

Comments

As always, it is my honor and pleasure to pray for you guys! And Friday...praying will get me through a very boring training/information class I have to take. Sunday, part of the scripture at church was Acts 4:24. I have to tell you that through your blogging I started following Tiffany's blog while they were in Ohio with baby Isaac. And through their family, and other puzzle pieces, God is TOTALLY rocking our world. For HIS glory. I need you to know that there ARE good things that are happening through your blog and your family sharing your day to day life. God IS working! I pray that you celebrate life, today and always. Jane in SC

Date:

15 Jan 2008

Time:

03:49 PM

Comments

We will also be praying EXTRA HARD!!!!! But so you know we have never stopped!Love The Stevens

Date:

16 Jan 2008

Time:

12:39 PM

Comments

Prayers as always for you all......in all of these specifics. One thing I have learned in my life is that anticipation of certain days/dates can often (more often than i ever would have guessed) can be so much worse or more difficult than the actual anniversary. It's a key I work to remember as i head toward a particularly painful anniversary. in no way am i trying to belittle your own fears and your own reality, just adding the 2 cents that have helped me! Many prayers, now, yesterday, always and tomorrow (and Friday too!) Nancy

Date:

16 Jan 2008

Time:

11:46 PM

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As you look back on this year I hope that you will be able to see so many good things that have happened that they will, in the long run, overshadow or drown out some of the pain and frustration you have been through. I pray you can find the good in each day and look forward to the future. It's easier said than done, so be kind to yourselves, it's a process. You both have come so far this year, you have much to be proud of and you have been an inspiration to us all. We got good news today! My husband is in complete remission, and in 2-3 years if he stays this way the Dr. will say he is cured. So, both of our families are still going down a joyful road, still filled with unknowns, and still waiting for more healing. We are not alone in our journeys, we both have a great family and church family, and the support of people we don't even know, and God brings us all together for His good. Don't be afraid of Friday, just feel the feelings, and look for the joy, and know that you aren't going through the day alone. Blessing, Linda A. Chapel Hill

Date:

17 Jan 2008

Time:

06:16 PM

Comments

Hey Josh and Shelly- Thinking of your family as we approach the year mark of the accident. We continue to pray for healing for you, Josh. We won't stop. Regarding Straterra-I was on it for about a year and found it very helpful in dealing with ADHD symptoms. You guys are such great parents. We pray for strength and encouragement, joy and healing! love, Tayloe in Jacksonville, Fl

Date:

17 Jan 2008

Time:

06:57 PM

Comments

Continuing to uphold you in our thoughts and prayers as you approach the one year mark!

Date:

17 Jan 2008

Time:

07:19 PM

Comments

Hello Josh and Shelly, Just wanted you to know the Lord still brings you to mind. We will be thinking and praying for you tomorrow. In Christ Love, Heather Hendriksen Jeremiah 29:11

Date:

17 Jan 2008

Time:

09:48 PM

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thinkink of you, and will be praying all day.

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

09:25 AM

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Praying for you today. May God continue to be with you and your family. Libby Lounds

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

09:44 AM

Comments

Shelly- I have to be honest, it is hard to know how to pray for you all when we haven't heard from you in a couple of weeks! Want you to know though that we are still praying for you! How is the house coming along? Hope all is well with the children. How has Josh's spirit been lately?! Hope to hear from you again SOON!!

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

10:21 AM

Comments

Thinking of your family especially today and praying for you as you remember the events of a year ago. Jaena

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

10:26 AM

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Hi friend- we're thinking of and praying for you especially today. Hope you are feeling God's presence in a very real way as you process all that has happened. We love you! Expecting miracles- The Gaschos

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

10:39 AM

Comments

Wanted to let you know you are in our thoughts and prayers...we just know that God has already used you and will continue to. You've touch a lot of lives and your bravery in the face of this journey has been inspirational....even on the hard days... God bless, Eric and MacKenzie Wells & family

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

10:53 AM

Comments

we love you bucks. we will be praying for this day. patty

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

11:04 AM

Comments

Dear Shelly, Josh and family, Know you are in my constant thoughts and prayers today as I know this is a "special day" for you but God will see you through. You are all very special and Your LIGHT SHINES brightly all the time. In His Love, CB from LCC

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

11:04 AM

Comments

Dear Shelly, Josh and family, Know you are in my constant thoughts and prayers today as I know this is a "special day" for you but God will see you through. You are all very special and Your LIGHT SHINES brightly all the time. In His Love, CB from LCC

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

11:13 AM

Comments

Hey Josh and Shelly, We have had you guys in our prayers so much. i spoke to Lindsey and Nate and they shared the ministry you guys have and we are so glad you are willing to be used by God. we hold you all in our prayers. Much love Faith and Ben Moncivaiz Josh, give you love to your partents

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

12:41 PM

Comments

You are all in our thoughts and prayers daily. We continue to believe with you for God's perfect timing in all that the future holds. I have this reminder on my fridge "happy moments, PRAISE GOD, difficult moments, SEEK GOD, quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD, painful moments, TRUST GOD, every moment, THANK GOD" You all have been true examples of praising, seeking, worshiping, trusting, and thanking! May God continually bless your lives as you have blessed ours, and may today be especially rich in HIS PEACE! In Him, Michelle (Fratzke) Fullerton

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

12:44 PM

Comments

Heavenly Father, We thank you for blessing the house project for Josh and Shelly and we ask for a continued outpouring of your Holy Spirit to fall upon people who are able to donate time, money, labor, materials, etc. and nudge the hearts of those who need to participate. We ask for favor for the entire Buck/Syswerda families in making this project run smoothly. We ask you to make the mountains low and the crooked path straight when it comes to the construction and completion of this home. We also ask for this home to be a continual blessing, not only to the Bucks, but to all who enter its doors. May all who enter FEEL your love and compassion in a very tangible way. Bless every worker who lays their hand to help-- protect each of them in the building process from accidents or mishaps and cause this project to be completed on time. Continue to speak to the hearts of Josh and Shelly and guide them into their new ministry so that they might enlarge your Kingdom by their testimonies of Your faithfulness. Please show up strong on behalf of Josh and Shelly and may they FEEL your comfort and compassion towards them in real and tangible ways. Hold them like newborn children and help them to be able to release all of their emotions and fears completely to you. Restore their sense of safety, which has been altered due to the accident, and reach out to them through the love of others. We choose to bless you and worship you for who you are and your faithfulness to us. In Jesus' name we pray, Amen*****You are loved!

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

01:49 PM

Comments

Thinking of you all today. I hope that your surrounded by those who love and support you! I am so thankful to God that your life was spared a year ago. That God knew your life has so much more of an impact to make. I applaud you both for continously seeking God's will for your lives and for always remaining steadfast in your faith. Praying always for you! Sue Simpson

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

02:39 PM

Comments

1/18/08 Thinking of you today! Leslie Persinger Tennessee

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

03:52 PM

Comments

May God richly bless you today with reminders of His goodness and grace and miracles that He has poured out upon your family during this last year. Even though God gave you a task heavy to carry, He has provided you what you need on a daily basis. You have been faithful to keep Him first in your lives and as a result many, many individuals have learned more about God because of your example. You are loved. Keep strong!

Date:

18 Jan 2008

Time:

05:34 PM

Comments

We love you all so much and are lifting you all up in prayer to the LORD our God...through the Holy Spirit by the Truth and grace that comes from Jesus, the Christ, His Son. Blessed be the Name of the Lord. the kemples

Date:

19 Jan 2008

Time:

11:41 AM

Comments

Josh and Shelly...i think in remembering what was happening last year THIS day (the day after), I am astounded at where you are today. That day there was such a feeling of hopelessness, overwhelming sorrow, and incredible unknowns. Today, as we look back over the past year, we are so blessed to see where the Lord has taken you. I know this weekend is difficult for you...but today is a day of rejoicing in what God has been able to do in your lives, how he has used you in the MOST INCREDIBLE ways, and the joy that you have been able to find over the last year. What happend to you a year ago did not only change your life...it changed hundreds of lives besides as a result...and in this way, God has used you to do amazing things for each one of those other people. you must know, our lives would literally NEVER be the same without what has happend, but we are so thankful for where God has taken you and us through this journey. PLEASE remember...a year anniversary does not put limits on what GOD is able to do. we are continually praying for COMPLETE healing. we LOVE you, and are THANKFUL for you today. missing you like crazy- zach and rachel

Date:

19 Jan 2008

Time:

06:16 PM

Comments

Oh my goodness is that baby cute. those cheeks and eyes, wow!

Date:

19 Jan 2008

Time:

09:31 PM

Comments

Jean, I always love your blogs, too. What awesome boys you have. Josh looks great too! Both grandsons are so cute. Wish I could have heard the music! Anxious to hear about Friday the 18th. Many prayers from here throughout the day and night. Love to all of you Glenda Kremer--Ohio

Date:

20 Jan 2008

Time:

11:36 AM

Comments

Hi Josh and Shelly, Uncle Ron and I are thinking of you, and always praying on your behalf. We thank God for your tenacity, grace, and submission during all of this past year. We know it has been really hard, but we also are so proud to be able to come along side you in a small way to keep letting you know that we are always here for you both, and your lovable,kissable kiddies. Love, The Meyer family

Date:

20 Jan 2008

Time:

11:40 AM

Comments

I still find it very very hard to feel sorry for you

Date:

20 Jan 2008

Time:

03:26 PM

Comments

Thinking of you and praying for God's presence to be felt in your hearts and minds. In Him, Janine

Date:

20 Jan 2008

Time:

06:24 PM

Comments

Loved the birthday pictures! Praying for the Buck family! Love and Hugs, Shar MacLaren

Date:

21 Jan 2008

Time:

10:08 AM

Comments

Dear Noah,Zoe,& Ephram (& Ava); Thank you for sharing your amazing Uncle Geoff with us this weekend! He came to our home in Indianapolis to go a bit further south to snowboard/ski with our son, Bobby & friend Carrie from IWU. Uncle Geoff shared your family's story and website with us. Our family is lifting you and your dad and mom up in prayer. We serve an awesome God! Make sure Uncle Geoff sings to you everytime he sees you. He has a great voice! Blessings from the Wrigleys in Indianapolis

Date:

21 Jan 2008

Time:

11:36 AM

Comments

Who is Ezekiel?

Date:

21 Jan 2008

Time:

11:45 AM

Comments

Why was Ezekiel's birthday celebrated in March last year if he was born in January?

Date:

21 Jan 2008

Time:

06:43 PM

Comments

the pics of the boys were sooo cute! nice to see how Ephram is growing :)

Date:

21 Jan 2008

Time:

10:42 PM

Comments

Shelly- Loved reading you posting again and being able to catch up on everything in the life of the Buck's! I am still waiting for that call to help you in any way that I can! I am glad that the anniversary felt like any other day. (mostly) I am praying for you all! Where are things at the new house at? Anything exciting?! - Stacy P.S. I loved seeing the picture of you wearing the necklace!

Date:

21 Jan 2008

Time:

11:40 PM

Comments

Has Noah been tested for bipolar disorder? I don't know how young they can test children for it, but he sounds exactly like my cousin who is bipolar. It was not found out until his late teen years that he was bipolar. His entire life they (dr.s) just thought he had behavioral problems and learning disabilities. (Many of the same issues it sounds like Noah has.)What made me think of it is that my cousin used to rock too...

Date:

21 Jan 2008

Time:

11:48 PM

Comments

Hi Josh and Shelley, Those anniversary dates are an interesting thing, aren't they? I find that the days leading up to the anniversary of my husband's death are so much harder than the actual day itself. I wonder if it will always be that way? I'm glad you guys made it through and you were able to spend some quiet together time! As for Noah and the chewing...my son has multiple sensory issues and I can't remember reading if Noah is in occupational therapy? I'm sure he is, but just wanted to throw this out there...make sure he is with a therapist who specializes in sensory integration therapy. They are a most wonderful group of people!!! Some of the things we tried....the baby teether that vibrates was a huge hit with my Jared, E-mergency (it's a powderered drink mix) and we would dab a bit of it on his tongue at times to provide some sensory input, DOUBLE BUBBLE bubble gum!! (let it get hard and it works even better, we called it "thinking gum" and he would chew it when he really needed to concentrate on something...sounds weird, but it worked for us), chewy rope licorice, chewy beef jerky, pretty much anything that he has to work to chew on or that provides sensory input! Seriously, we went from a child that literally chewed the framing around his bedroom window OFF THE WALLS, chewed a mattress to unusable degree, and chewed pretty much e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g. in site. If you ever need someone to talk to about these types of things, I'd be more than happy to listen and offer ideas! I continue to pray for your family and I smile big everytime I read about the awesome things God is doing in your lives!!!!!!!!!!! Sincerely, Amy Heidt Billings, MT www.caringbridge.org/visit/gerryheidt suzyhousemouse@aol.com

Date:

22 Jan 2008

Time:

09:00 AM

Comments

Dear Josh,Shelly and family. Just wanted to let you know that you are still in our thoughts, and in our prayers.Glad to hear the house is progressing nicely.Wow, cant believe it's been a year already.I read your post often.And just wanted you to know what a blessing you all are.Your sister in Christ.Jeanna

Date:

22 Jan 2008

Time:

09:01 AM

Comments

Glad you got through THE DAY pretty uneventfully. God continues to answer many prayers made on behalf of your family. You have perservered by the grace of God! Your courage and faithfulness never cease to amaze me. I continue to pray for the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well being of all of the Buck/Syswerda families. Blessings, Susan

Date:

22 Jan 2008

Time:

09:11 AM

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Hey Buck's - just wanted you to know that we are still thinking about you. We don't have profound words to share, or even pretend to understand the year you have had - just that your family is in our hearts and prayers. God be with you - Aaron & Barb Roth - Impact Church

Date:

22 Jan 2008

Time:

09:21 AM

Comments

Thanks so much for the update and for the beautiful picture of you and Josh. Sure hope I get to meet you all one day. Continuing to pray for little Noah and what's best for him too. Praying for all of you daily and of course for complete healing and that the Lord meet all your needs every second of every day! Love and prayers from Ohio Glenda Kremer

Date:

23 Jan 2008

Time:

10:15 AM

Comments

Just thought about you guys today and just wanted you to know friends from FCWC are thinking and praying for you. Kim Guard and family.

Date:

23 Jan 2008

Time:

02:13 PM

Comments

Dear Josh & Shelly, Thanks as always for your blog. I don't submit my thoughts very often but I sure do pray for all of you and will continue to pray. Just wanted to let you know today how very cute, handsome, pretty couple you are--the pic you posted is so good of both of you. You're so special and we love ya'!!!!! Will also be praying for Noah's doctor visits etc. ...Nancy from Marion

Date:

23 Jan 2008

Time:

11:01 PM

Comments

My mom had a recent breast cancer scare (turned out to be OK) and she was on pins and needles the whole time, so I understand the anxiety as you wait for Jean's surgery and then the report. I will surely be praying....Blessings, Susan

Date:

24 Jan 2008

Time:

11:11 AM

Comments

asking for prayer (instead of money) is such a breath of fresh air. thank you.

Date:

24 Jan 2008

Time:

11:45 AM

Comments

i've been praying for your mom and will continue to do so ! all our love , the kemples

Date:

24 Jan 2008

Time:

12:53 PM

Comments

I will be praying for your mom and all of you. Sue Simpson

Date:

24 Jan 2008

Time:

01:51 PM

Comments

Praying for your Mom, Jean. We've emailed each other several times. Always so thankful to hear from her. Keeping her and you all in prayer! Love from Ohio Glenda Kremer

Date:

24 Jan 2008

Time:

02:21 PM

Comments

I am swamped at work today but for some reason got a feeling I needed to check your blog. I am glad I did as I saw the news about Jean and the surgery right now. Praying for you "Shelly's Mom" and hoping that all results come back saying that everything was benign. -Marianne PS Ephram just keeps growing so fast. Such a cutie! Matt should teach Noah some Mandolin! I bet they would both have fun =D

Date:

24 Jan 2008

Time:

02:41 PM

Comments

Shelly,i am praying for your mom. God bless her & your family.I am praying for your entire family & your needs. We've never met but i feel like i know you.My step daughter & family live across the street from Matt & Nicole Trexler& family in Marion, Indiana. I've been following your blog & praying since my step niece JoEllen Hummel first posted about you. Love & Prayers Bonnie Meyer Washington, Missouri

Date:

25 Jan 2008

Time:

01:24 PM

Comments

Praying for your mom right now as she is in surgery and that next week comes back with the best possible no cancer news! Praying for a peaceful weekend for you all too! SUE SIMPSON

Date:

25 Jan 2008

Time:

05:41 PM

Comments

Bucks- How much can one family handle?! Apparently, (because God will not give us more than we can bear) ALOT! Praying for you and yours in this time! Call if you need anything Shelly! ( I'm not just saying that either!)- Stacy Shilander- 616-669-8615

Date:

26 Jan 2008

Time:

10:23 PM

Comments

They have to handle it just like every other family has to handle it. Watch the news. People die or are severely injured in accidents everyday. And I doubt there is a family out there that has not been touched by cancer. My family had two.

Date:

27 Jan 2008

Time:

12:48 PM

Comments

You are in our prayers. Thank you for your honesty in posting. It is good to hear about and know the updates even if they are difficult. You are a blessing to so many people. Our teens came back from Set Apart and said Josh's seminar was their favorite. They appreciated him sharing what he did. May God continue to bless you, provide for you and use you to further the Good News. Kathy Troyer, Laotto Wesleyan Church, Laotto, IN

Date:

27 Jan 2008

Time:

08:19 PM

Comments

Praying for positive health report and peace of mind and spirits for EVERYONE! Shelly, has autism been ruled out for Noah? Some of his "symptoms" sound like that. At any rate, you and your entire family are on our "Forever" prayer list:) cc

Date:

27 Jan 2008

Time:

09:48 PM

Comments

We loved seeing your cuties at church today. Ephram wins for worlds best smile. He and Halle played in the nursery today. They also have the same diaper bag. Praying for your mom! Shannon and Brian Bradford

Date:

28 Jan 2008

Time:

12:37 AM

Comments

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Date:

28 Jan 2008

Time:

01:44 AM

Comments

someone needs some therapy... go elsewhere with your negativity. Ever thought about pursuing a counselor as your avenue for venting...as opposed to an innocent family who has never harmed you in any way? Please. I'm begging you. Go away.

Date:

28 Jan 2008

Time:

08:49 PM

Comments

shelly, i continue to pray for your mom. we love you all so much! patty

Date:

28 Jan 2008

Time:

10:07 PM

Comments

How much more can one family take? Please try to remain calm until you get the out come(GOD IS ON YOUR SIDE)Praying for Jean, John, and family to remain positive and to have the answers that they are looking for.(PLEASE IGNORE THE NEGATIVE COMMENTS WE STILL CARE AND WILL CONTINUE TO PRAYFOR YOUR NEEDS!!!!)

Date:

29 Jan 2008

Time:

09:02 AM

Comments

I am pretty sure that was not a negative comment, nor is this. I am pretty sure that it was the answer to the question "How much can one family take?" And the poster was just saying that they have to take it in stride just like everyone else. Bad stuff happens, to everyone, we just need to keep level heads, work through it, and move on the best way possible.

Date:

29 Jan 2008

Time:

11:21 AM

Comments

Sending love and prayers your way today. You are never far from our thoughts and conversation. Know you are loved! cc

Date:

29 Jan 2008

Time:

11:26 AM

Comments

I agree. I would not wish anything like what has happened to the Bucks onto anyone, but reality is there are A LOT of people who have suffered the same if not more struggles in their lifetime, and they've managed to handle it, cope and move on. The Bucks must do the same now too!

Date:

29 Jan 2008

Time:

03:48 PM

Comments

Hi Josh and Shelly. I have never left any messages on your site before, but have checked in from time to time to see how you are doing. My family has prayed for yours, and will continue to do so. The following words were cut-and-pasted from the hospital Carepage site of a teenage girl who was recently battling cancer. I think they speak to some of what you might be going through. The site is located at www.carepages.com and the specific patient is AshleyHendrick (no space between first and last name). The words relate to the suffering we go through in life, and the role our faith as Christians plays through it all. I hope you find this helpful. Stay strong, and keep living out your faith. There are many who love and care about you. Austin and I watched a movie together last night. In this movie, Mel Gibson played a minister and father of two, who had recently lost his wife in a car accident. Although the main theme of the story had more to do with aliens coming to the planet to inflict some unknown harm to human beings (this is why Austy watched), the underlying story was really more about faith, and how people respond to hurt and loss. In this story, Gibson goes through a period where he becomes very angry with God for letting something so terrible happen to his family. He is filled with bitterness, and even when the threat of an alien invasion takes place, he refuses to let his children pray to God for help. Gibson tells his children during an emotional climax…“we are in this (life) alone”, and refuses to acknowledge the existence of God, despite the life of faith he had lived up until that point. The movie we watched last night made for great discussion with Austin about how we respond to the different hurts of the world that we experience as we go through life. Austy immediately made a connection with Ashley, and all of the other children with cancer he has gotten to know or know of. Austin admitted that he did not know what emotions and feelings he would experience if someone he loved was taken from him, and this led to a good talk together about the importance of relying on God through everything that comes our way; the good and the bad. If you had to choose between a life without hurt, and a life with hurt present…which one would you choose? I suppose that this question is pretty easy to answer, as none of us really want to experience hurt or loss, and often go to whatever length we can to avoid its painful sting. I wonder though how your answer might be impacted if we added just a couple of simple caveats. What if in choosing the hurt-free life, you had to accept along with it a stagnant, or even shallow relationship with God? If choosing the more comfortable life meant you could never experience all of God’s goodness, and the richness of a deep and personal relationship with Him, would you still want to go this route? What about the other option. Would you be willing to accept a life with hurt, even incredible hurt, if it created within you a desire to draw closer to our creator? Would the difficult experience and effect that it has on your perspective of life be worth it? Does your relationship to God really matter this much to you? Of course the truth is that this choice is really not one that any of us are ever given a chance to make. We cant “opt out” of hurt and loss, at least not in this world, as it is almost a given that we will all experience it at some point in our life. It is also true that by experiencing hurt and loss, we do not automatically enter into a closer relationship with God. The two do not necessarily go hand-in-hand, as some kind of a “package deal”. Sometimes in fact, through the experience of significant pain, people actually choose to distance themselves even farther from God, and in the process turn their anger toward the creator of all things good, and the true provider of real comfort and peace. Though none of us will ever experience the artificial choice dilemma that I have written about today, all of us will at some point experience significant hurt and loss. This I think goes to the very heart of what it means to truly love and to live. The real question I guess then is not so much; will you or wont you go through hurt as you travel this journey of life, but rather, how will you respond when you do? This is the question that all of us must answer…some day.

Date:

30 Jan 2008

Time:

12:46 AM

Comments

First of all remember that Cancer is no longer a death sentence...our church is full of cancer survivers! I'm glad to hear that Jean is angry....that means that she's ready to fight this! We just finished 6 rounds of chemo, and in that time,99% of what we saw was HOPE! all around us. We saw people coming into the treatment room with donuts to celebrate their victories! It really was a happy place to be in spite of the IV's We just gave the cancer to God from the beginning and we had such great prayer support and hugs from our church family as well as our family and friends that honestly we were so lifted up that never once did we really freak out, we expected everything to be alright! With all of the prayers Jean and your family will get through this blog I know that you will all get through this time and be an inspiration to others. My husband called it another bump in the road of life...and we just took it one day at a time. Attitude really helps, the Drs. and nurses were all surprised at how well Don went through the whole treatment. We just gave God the credit, His Grace saw us through. He will be there for you to! Remember that God didn't do this to you....But, He will be there, and help you through it. One day at a time my friends, you can do this! Blessings, Linda A. Chapel Hill P.S. I'm putting your family on our prayerchain, we've got lots of great prayers, many of them have been down the road Jean is about to go down they will have strong prayers for her!

Date:

30 Jan 2008

Time:

06:54 AM

Comments

I'm sorry that you have another trial to go through. But, your testimony is clear. Thankfully you have the Lord by your side! I will be praying now for your mom. Love in Christ, Carol

Date:

30 Jan 2008

Time:

10:13 AM

Comments

I'm praying for all of you! Jane in SC

Date:

30 Jan 2008

Time:

10:49 AM

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Shelly, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. It just seems like it's one thing after another. You have such an amazing spirit and I'll continue to pray for your family. You are all such inspirations to me and my family. Thank you! Cheri Barnett (Driesenga)

Date:

30 Jan 2008

Time:

11:36 AM

Comments

Has Jean gotten confirmation that it is cancer?

Date:

30 Jan 2008

Time:

11:42 AM

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Praying for you all, Buck Family, and now, Shelly's Mom!!! Aimee from Iowa

Date:

30 Jan 2008

Time:

12:03 PM

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Does anyone want to join me sometime and help remove the obvious HUGE targets on the houses of this entire family? This is crazy, something else to deal with! Know that we are praying for you daily, and asking for a time of rest without anything new happening, you all deserve it. ~Mistelle, Allendale

Date:

30 Jan 2008

Time:

01:14 PM

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Josh and Shelly I am so sorry for your news. I have faith that God will heal your mom. I will praying for an easy and quick recovery! Sue Simpson

Date:

30 Jan 2008

Time:

02:38 PM

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I am praying for the doctors to quickly come up with a plan to help Jean fight this terrible disease. She's one tough cookie and I know she can do this with the help of the talented doctors in W. Mich. It is a blessing to have great facilities with talented people so close to home. Wishing you all the added strength for the days to come as this certainly adds a lot for a family that certainly has so much on their plate. Praying for you all - Marianne

Date:

30 Jan 2008

Time:

03:35 PM

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I check weekly to see how everybody is doing. I attended IWU when you and Josh were there(Kendra-ontiveros- Portnova). I write to let you know I'll be praying for you and your family and your mom. I myself in Nov.07 was diagnosed with colorectal cancer @ age 32! That verse you wrote is something I do everyday. I've been through 5 weeks of chemo/Radiation and now I will get a colonoscopy to see of the tumor is smaller and operable. Im praying for a miracle and for God to do what's best for me. She has a tough road ahead and so do I. I'll be thinking of all of you. May God Bless. Kendra

Date:

30 Jan 2008

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06:43 PM

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Shelly-Your maturity, faith, and courage in the face of great adversity continue to amaze, inspire, and encourage me. It is so difficult to watch those you love the most suffer. Of course, I will be praying for your mom-for successful treatment and fast recovery-for peace of mind and strength to press on. Remember that breast cancer is a treatable, survivable disease-I have so many friends and acquiantances that have come through this wonderfully well. Even though the treatment may be unpleasant, your mom will be able to get through it! Blessings, Susan

Date:

30 Jan 2008

Time:

06:59 PM

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Bucks- My heart cries for you! You are soo strong! How do you handle soo many things and still have Faith? I know faith is as small as a mustard seed, right?! I will pray for you and your mom and the many stages that you will encounter with the cancer. Why you? First Ava, the accident, and now this. Praying, praying and praying!

Date:

31 Jan 2008

Time:

11:26 AM

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We all have many trials and errors to face in life. The Bucks' have just chosen to make theirs public. Lets continue to pray for EVERYBODY in the world going through hard times. They are all courageous too!

Date:

31 Jan 2008

Time:

04:09 PM

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I've been praying all weekend for your mom. I just thought I'd check back. I'm sorry about the bad news for your mom. Your family continues to be an inspiration! Now we'll pray especially hard that the treatments need not diminish her spirit. Way to say "Ha" to Satan! Oh, and thanks for the updates. You are so good at juggling life and then updating the plog (prayer log, yep I made it up).

Date:

31 Jan 2008

Time:

08:13 PM

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Wow is all I can say after your post today. Know that I will be praying for you (when I had to face my dad's continuing battle with cancer it made me face the reality of his mortality in a way I hadn't ever considered) and definitely for your mom. I praise God that you keep your eyes fixed on him and rest in HIS ability to give you the strength you need for one day at a time. You are an amazing testimony, Shelley!

Date:

31 Jan 2008

Time:

08:41 PM

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Shelly, once again you are such an encouragement! Your faith is awesome. I praise the Lord for strong faith as though I've been through nothing close to all that you deal with I know that had it not been for my faith I would have turned from Him many times lately with some difficulties I have. He continues to use you and your family to strengthen my faith. Thank you. I've been emailing your Mom and of course praying for her a lot! Told her she has way too much to do and sure the Lord will take great care of her. Much love and many prayers from Ohio Glenda Kremer

Date:

01 Feb 2008

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07:51 AM

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Thank you for staying so strong in the Lord. It is extremely encouraging and humbling. I am praying for you guys as well as your mother and family. Satan has no power; "If God is for us who can be against us?" [Romans 8:31]...May He wrap His arms of comfort around you.

Date:

01 Feb 2008

Time:

01:31 PM

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We are weak, but He is strong! Yes, Jesus loves me.

Date:

01 Feb 2008

Time:

10:47 PM

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Syswerda's and Buck's Your families continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Brad, Susan, Ally, Nathan and Emily

Date:

03 Feb 2008

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01:46 AM

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HI Shelly & Josh, Been trying to keep up reading your blog this past month. Sometimes we get so over whelmed with life, don't we? We are praying for your mom and dad, Shelly and all you kids. It is so hard to understand this yet again! Misty didn't have surgery which is a praise! But her pain level is still and will always be very high. We up lift you all in our prayers and think of you all the time. Again would love to sit down with a diet coke and visit but since it is a distance from FT City, I guess we will visit through our prayers. God is holding you in his hands! All of our love, Wayne, Mona and Misty.

Date:

03 Feb 2008

Time:

07:43 AM

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Dear Buck family, I bookmarked your page a long time ago and occasionally check in to see how things are going for you. Mid January this year, our family had a terrible tragedy. I was encouraged reading through some of the things you have been writing. For some reason, God allowed what has happened in our family to happen too. I know it's somewhere in His plan, and maybe some day I will understand. But for the moment, it is encouraging to see how He is blessing your family and also me and my children, even in what seems like the darkest of times. Take care, Ros

Date:

03 Feb 2008

Time:

12:01 PM

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Shelly, I am so sorry for the negative coments on this blog. Yes others have difficulties but this is not their blog, this is Shelly and Joshes. If the person who is making the comments needs prayer, then please ask. We all have difficult events in our lives and we ask for prayer or guidence from the Lord. This is a blog set up for uplifting encouraging words for this family, not for others to diminish the support both spiritiual and financial that has been provided for this family. My son spent the holiday on ICU. He has 2 children and people were wonderful to this family. I know others did not have as much but God blesses those who stand fast in his love and give to others of time prayer or financial support. Please please dont leave any more negative comments. If you dont like what you see and read, dont read In His Name Paula

Date:

04 Feb 2008

Time:

11:16 AM

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I feel sorry for you Paula. We all have freedom of speech on an open forum. If you don't like what you read, don't read!

Date:

05 Feb 2008

Time:

11:30 AM

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Shelly-thanks for keeping us all updated on your family. I wasn't going to touch the comment section piece, but I just want to mention a couple things. I can speak with some experience because my husband suffered a spinal cord injury, so we can relate to the Bucks a little. About the "breath of fresh air asking for prayer instead of money"--I went back and read Shelly's posts, and she asks for prayers in almost every post, but she does not ask for money. The people who have come to surround the Bucks in this time of need (and believe me there are many on-going needs) have lovingly organized fundraisers so eventually they can get on with their lives. We should commend them on being open about thier gifts--they could conceal it and take advantage of people instead. Of course people suffer unimaginable things every day--these are the types of situations that make us aware of people who suffer. My eyes were open so much after Brad's accident to people who suffer. But, there are people who are blessed to be a blessing and the Bucks are being blessed now-despite the struggles they will continue to face. One day, when they are able, I know they will help others in whatever way they can. I know all about free speech, but these strange comments are different. If you are looking to add some thought or discussion to this situation, think about what you write before just posting a snide comment. It just puts people in a defensive position, and really doesn't help you make your point, because the comments have such a bitter "sound" to them. Of course you have the freedom to write whatever you want, and maybe you feel better, but I don't think it's giving anyone else something to think about. Maybe to make your point, you could start a blog or a website or a prayer page for the people you are thinking of that are in need and don't have the support they need. Take care Bucks--Hope to see you soon- Jennifer Prince

Date:

05 Feb 2008

Time:

02:14 PM

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ok, we need an update!!! what's going on with you guys and your mom?

Date:

05 Feb 2008

Time:

08:23 PM

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I have always thought this site needs to end and a more accountable site started. We can say all we want but the negative comments continue. They are hurtful and i believe at this point they do not provide any new perspective or keep any of us accountable. They only want to stir up more drama. Where ever they can write they will. That is why caringbridges and carepages have the setup they do.

Date:

05 Feb 2008

Time:

10:12 PM

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Shelly, I am praying for your Mom. We just went through this with Donna and she is doing great. I hope it goes as well for your Mom. Janine

Date:

05 Feb 2008

Time:

11:05 PM

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Any updates on Jean? We will continue to pray for the Buck & Syswerda families....

Date:

06 Feb 2008

Time:

02:19 AM

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It is obvious that there is someone(s) who keep coming back and leaving negative comments. Instead of being pulled into the drama they want to create, why don't we all pray for them and thank God they keep coming back. Apparently they are being drawn here for a reason, and we as Christians can only pray that God will soften their hearts so one day they will see the true and whole picture here. I'm sure that would be a great blessing to Josh and Shelly in and of its self. The purpose of this blog is to keep family and "friends" updated on their lives. Their lifes purpose is to minister to people and draw them closer to God. I think this is serving the needs for both of their purposes! And lets be honest, for every negative comment there is ten positives! So that just cancels them out any way.

Date:

06 Feb 2008

Time:

07:02 AM

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Date:

06 Feb 2008

Time:

02:29 PM

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I completely agree with one of the last comments, that we should pray for these people writing the negative comments, there is a reason they keep coming back and I would guess that they probably have stuff going on in their lives.It is so true that for every negative comment there are 10 positive lets keep lifting up the Bucks and Syswerdas and let them all know we care!!!!!!! Hope all is well with the Bucks and with Jean I guess no news is good news(i hope). Still praying for both families

Date:

06 Feb 2008

Time:

03:46 PM

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Wow. Well I think something needs to be set straight. My name is Cori (clthomasma@gmail.com, 616-446-0855) and I go to Greenhouse. Well at least I try to. I find it very difficult to sit through church services-so I only make it about once a month, because going more often would just frustrate me. I check this site and read the comments once in a while. The last time was on January 26th. I had never left a comment before. I spend a lot of time on a computer therefore I type and read pretty fast so I read through most of the blogs and comments and such without much thought. I read the words “Bucks- How much can one family handle?!” and was like “hey I know the answer to that. The answer is that they can continue to do what they are already doing and live with life’s ups and downs and continue on just as we all do.” So I typed in the words “They have to handle it just like every other family has to handle it. Watch the news. People die or are severely injured in accidents everyday. And I doubt there is a family out there that has not been touched by cancer. My family had two.” Anyone who knows me at all knows that I am not a spiteful person. They would also know what I think comes out of my mouth (and off my fingertips) pretty fast and one of my hobbies is prying my foot out of my mouth. I am also blunt, matter of fact, socially awkward and never seem to say the right thing at the right time. But that is what makes me me. I have met the Bucks. I have talked with the Bucks. They don’t know me all that well, but know me well enough to know that I may be a bit unconventional but I am not hurtful. So when I wandered onto the Greenhouse page today I in no way expected any response to my comment. I even forgot I wrote it. I was reading the current entries and decided to back up to see what negative comment was being talked about. I was pretty shocked to discover that the comment was mine. I am sorry too much was read into my comment. Man, and I have been trying so hard not to be the “weird kid” too.

Date:

06 Feb 2008

Time:

08:40 PM

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hey!its me claudia!i havent sent a messege in some time-well about a year accually,but i hope u liked that little crochet blanket that i asked ms christensen 2 send 2 u.i made it myself.i really hope u feel well and thank god ur ok. love,claudia valdivia. used 2 be in heritage elementary but now i am in middle school=p

Date:

06 Feb 2008

Time:

10:15 PM

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Dear sweet Cori, I'm pretty sure they are referring to the comment about asking for prayer instead of money. Don't feel bad honey!! Read down a few more comments and you will see that someone posted they were sure you didn't mean it negatively. Thank you for being honest and for clearing up any misgivings about what you wrote. And for being what most Christians have the hardest time being: Accountable! Blessings to you too

Date:

06 Feb 2008

Time:

10:56 PM

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Shelly, we are praying for your mom and hoping that doctors have caught this in time for a full recovery. Continued prayer for each child and their own needs as well as for Josh's health, your strength and the house to be built without any big hitches! In other words, we are still praying!!! So glad you KNOW YOU ARE LOVED!! The Christensen's

Date:

07 Feb 2008

Time:

12:32 AM

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Yea! At last a post from you, Josh! Through this blog, we have all gotten to know Shelly, and now we get a chance to hear your thoughts as well. I have no deep thoughts or words of wisdom, but do want you to know the Buck-Syswerda clan is always at the top of my prayer list. I thank God for each one of you and how God is using you to glorify him. Blessings, Susan

Date:

07 Feb 2008

Time:

12:36 AM

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How AWSOME to here from you Josh!!!! So wonderful to hear from your perspective,hope maybe this can give you a little outlet.Glad that Shelly can get away for a little R&R as a mom I know how much she needs it( especialy considering your situation).How about you Josh do you get a chance to collect you thoughts?Still praying for you everyday and for John and Jean with this next hurdle in their lives you are truly an amazing set of people stay strong. Love Always

Date:

07 Feb 2008

Time:

07:17 AM

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hi Josh, think about you every day, miss you, saw Jason and the others last weekend, wish you'd have been there! luvu, Susan

Date:

07 Feb 2008

Time:

08:29 AM

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Josh, It is so exciting to hear from you! Your picture remains on my door at IWU and I continue to pray for you and your family! LLJ

Date:

07 Feb 2008

Time:

10:32 AM

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Josh - How great to hear directly from you! You and your whole family are in our daily prayers. John and Jean and the rest of the Syswerda clan are, too. I'm glad to see you are still a jokester and must be planning on doing something special for Valentine's Day. Who else would send a blog dated February 13 one week ahead of time? - Phyllis Corner

Date:

07 Feb 2008

Time:

05:19 PM

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Ok,so we all have grown to absolutely adore your wife and love reading posts from her,however,we are thuroughly excited to hear from you and are definately looking forward to hearing that sense of humor you have that causes the belly laugh in all of us! Post a bunch more,we're looking forward to it!!!!!

Date:

07 Feb 2008

Time:

07:01 PM

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Josh- IT was absolutely wonderfull seeing YOU writing us! I do miss Shelly's blog, but it was an amazing feeling inside to read your thoughts! You very probably have taken a big step with that small act! Still praying for you and your families, especially Jean in this difficult time! - STacy Shilander

Date:

07 Feb 2008

Time:

07:21 PM

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Hmmmm......... I just posted and then went back and read a few comments. I can't believe the drama that one comment, that I wrote, has caused " how much can one family handle" !! I am absolutely amazed at how selfish people can be. I wonder if they have put themselves in the Buck's shoes? I write and erase what I type about 5 times per posting, sometimes leaving my name and sometimes not just exactly for that reason. If you really want my thoughts, I wish that no one other than Josh and Shelly could read peoples prayers and thoughts and that would probably solve MANY of the problems. Anyway, I'm sorry that one comment caused so much hurt, bitterness and anger. Praying for the Bucks and all those who are hurting!

Date:

07 Feb 2008

Time:

07:47 PM

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Cori-Your too funny. You make me laugh out loud everytime I talk to you. I have to admit I was upset when I read your original comment but knowing it came from you makes perfect sence because that is the way you are and i can see those works coming out of your mouth. Dont take this the wrong way but you will never not be the wierd kid so stop trying and stay away from the comment section

Date:

07 Feb 2008

Time:

10:07 PM

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What a blessing to read Josh's first blog! Look forward to more. I always love reading blogs from you all so I know how to pray for you. Many prayers have gone and will continue to go for Jean as well as all of you. Love and prayers from Ohio Glenda Kremer

Date:

08 Feb 2008

Time:

12:19 AM

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Ah if only we could all make perfectly perceived, thoughtfully assembled, proficiently edited, and politically correct posts... But in the end where would it leave us? A false Utopia I suppose where everyone is outwardly kind, but suffering on the inside. We wouldn't know the struggles the Bucks have gone through, "Hey everyone, things are great, people are nice, we've adjusted perfectly!" But that's ok. We all have our moments like Cori. Sometimes we're in a rush, sometimes it sounds so much clearer in our head that the way the words fall together when typed. My immediate response was definitely not positive when I read the post from Cori, but then I reread it and said you know what I've said the same thing in other situations before I am sure. I admittedly have typed, backspaced, totally cleared the text box and altogether not posted and come back later to do so. I fear my opinions may be construed as what the Bucks think because they are my friends, that someone may view mine to be that of Greenhouse as a whole, that someone that doesn't know me would think I am not compassionate enough, or that I am not a good person. In the end I've tried to be as genuine as possible and held myself accountable by always signing my name. I guess if someone disagrees, I can handle it. I am too opinionated on way too many things to think everyone will always agree with me :) It's ok though, I know that wisdom shared by other people about humility, compassion, embracing those that are hurt even when their comments are hurtful has helped me to rethink how I react. Thank you to those with the grace to provide the good advice and examples. So I suppose a long story short...hehe do I ever have a short story?? Well I think we've all had our foot-in-mouth moments. For me when I do (and I do) have them, I guess I just live and learn. We have all been there at one point I am sure or perhaps it's just my rationalization for being one that has :) Don't lose any sleep over your comment Cori, it was meant with super intentions and for encouragement. I wish I could make a different paragraph, doh! Anyway for the Bucks... !!! Thank you for posting Josh!!! I had a sound card that came with voice recognition programs circa 99 or so. I am sure things have come a long way since then. The one I had had a little Parrot that you could train and he'd hang around on your screen (kind of like the annoying MS Word paperclip "clippy" guy). Can't wait for more posts from you (and Shelly too...she's not off the hook)! :) Continuing to pray for Jean's health, safety, and expedient/effective/painless treatment. Continuing to pray for you Josh and for all the little Bucks too! I hope Noah is doing well with his meds and the Dr's. He's such a sweet little guy. Lots of love! -Marianne